Well, men are different, of course. All have their own temperament and tastes. Some just turn on a soccer game and a beer is enough, and for someone and dressed leather sexual harness will not be enough. But you need to do something different, something he doesn't expect from you. Show a different side of yourself. I'm sure that he will long remember this surprise. But don't overdo it so you don't scare him.

Give him and his friends tickets to a soccer game or some bar. Any man would appreciate such a gift. Go out with your friends. After that, you can meet somewhere and go out together. But I can't tell you about the spicy stuff, I'm pretty conservative here.